{"id":125199,"date":"2022-03-29T08:15:01","date_gmt":"2022-03-29T08:15:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.quintadosilval.pt\/?p=125199"},"modified":"2022-03-29T08:23:25","modified_gmt":"2022-03-29T08:23:25","slug":"this-is-personal-married-guys-step-off-5","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.quintadosilval.pt\/en\/this-is-personal-married-guys-step-off-5\/","title":{"rendered":"This IS personal: Married guys, step off"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><title>This IS personal: Married guys, step off<\/title><\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m sure you have a very unique and complicated story. Tell it to me when you&#8217;re not sharing a bed and a bank account with someone else. Furthermore, I am categorically uninterested in any kind of \u201cpolyamory\u201d setup.<\/p>\n<h2>Again, the point of dating isn&#8217;t to sand off your edges or hide your preferences in order to appeal to a wide variety of people and then narrow down the field to one lucky person<\/h2>\n<p>Mr. Awkward read that in early 2012 and thought \u201cCould she be looking for me?\u201d and it turns out I was. Not to marry, necessarily, but to go on some dates with. Other dudes read that and thought: \u201cNOPE!\u201d and kept scrolling, and that&#8217;s a good thing. I didn&#8217;t want to find the widest possible list of matches, I wanted to find specific matches who might be a good fit for my brand of weird.<\/p>\n<p>My list of what I wanted at that time won&#8217;t look like anyone else&#8217;s and that&#8217;s also a good thing. For example, I emphatically did not want to be someone&#8217;s Only Person (esp. right after meeting them), I didn&#8217;t want to be the person making all the plans. I wasn&#8217;t looking for a polyamorous setup and I wanted to be clear about that.<!--more--> Also, quiet people are great, but my wordy ADHD ass shouldn&#8217;t date them.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cI&#8217;m looking for someone who is as cool and kind and as funny as my friends.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI&#8217;m looking for someone who will come to the RenFaire with me and not be too shy to wear costumes.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI&#8217;m looking for someone who does not talk during movies.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI&#8217;m looking for someone who super-loves dogs, since I have 4 of them and they&#8217;re basically the center of my world.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI&#8217;m looking for someone who loves to plan vacations.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI hate talking on the phone, so I&#8217;d rather not do too much of it.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI really like my alone time, so I like to date people who have a lot of their own interests and friends.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI&#8217;m really involved in my local political scene, I want to date someone who cares a lot about politics.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI&#8217;m really involved in my church, I&#8217;m looking for someone who is also religious or at least spiritual.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI hate cooking and would eat out every night of the week if I could, so I need to either find someone who really loves cooking or someone who really loves sandwiches.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>What are you into? Have opinions. Have preferences. Be specific. Don&#8217;t be afraid to alienate people by having strong opinions and preferences <a href=\"https:\/\/besthookupwebsites.org\/russiancupid-review\/\">http:\/\/besthookupwebsites.org\/russiancupid-review<\/a>. If I had a dollar for all the dudes who read my profile and wanted to argue with me about why feminism is actually discrimination against men I&#8217;d be rich. The fact that they honed in on that detail and thought I&#8217;d enjoy arguing about it was an excellent \u201cweeding out\u201d tool.<\/p>\n<h2>You can see me try to compensate or correct or some of the lessons I&#8217;d learned from other relationships and dating experiences<\/h2>\n<p>I&#8217;m fat. \u201cGoogle \u2018Beth Ditto naked&#8217;, subtract the tattoos and goth hair, and you&#8217;ll get the idea. If you&#8217;re not down with that, it&#8217;s cool. I don&#8217;t like smokers, ponytails, or people who pronounce library as \u201cliberry.\u201d Life is short; be picky!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>If I had a dollar for all the dudes who wrote to me about how they didn&#8217;t normally like fat chicks but they really liked my sense of humor so they were willing to give it a try but you know, \u201cdesire is really complex,\u201d I&#8217;d be extremely rich. 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